Friday, April 17, 2015

How you made them feel ...

Maya Angelou got it right ... “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Maybe just like me this is a lesson that came to Lady Maya later in her life but I hope that by sharing this bit of wisdom with you NOW, it might save you time and help you build stronger relationships as of today and always.

So go on and be quiet then observe and listen to those around you.  Whether they are chatting with you in person, posting on Facebook or sending you a text.  In return offer kind words and gestures.  Do not quickly jump in with words that perpetuate grief, negativity & pity in hopes to turn the attention from them to you.  Go out there with a servant's heart and help someone feel better, loved, cherished, appreciated, welcomed, understood, inspired ... be good to someone.  Be the type of person that Maya talks of ... be remembered for how you made them {feel}!

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Interview with Evon Reyes with Fearless Fighting Females

Interview with Evon Reyes with

Fearless Fighting Females

Evon is a high school peep of mine y’all.  We reconnected after a while on Facebook.  I was so impressed with the pictures of Evon giving classes to college girls to defend themselves that I just HAD to ask her to give us an interview.  Even though she is up in the NYC, I hope it motivates you to teach yourself and the young girls in your life to learn self-defense!



 

What is the name of your business?
Fearless Fighting Females
This name is EMPOWERING!  Can you dig it?
What product and/or service do you provide?
Fearless Fighting Females Self Defense & Empowerment classes educate and empower students for today’s world.  During the class, participants learn the six basic principles of self-defense including moves that help students be more aware of their strengths and how to use those skills to defend themselves.  In this class, methods for real-life scenarios are taught that are easy to use and remember.
Loving how Evon has tailored her class for TODAY’S world.  It isn’t anything like what I grew up in … not calling myself old but man … things sure have changed!
When did your business start?
My business began in 2010
Where is your business located?
In New York City
My hometown!
What territory does your business serve?
Currently NY and the tri-state area but would love to expand to other states.
Ooooh!  Let’s get enough interest going to make it worthwhile for Evon to come down and give us a class!!!
Who does your business serve?
Girls as young as 5 and women as old as 80.
I am somewhere in there and I ain’t telling!
What need does your product or service fulfill for your customers?
Educates and empowers them to defend themselves and to handle themselves in the worst of situations.
Love how FFF will help us prepare for the worst situation.  It might just save a life.
What DIY tip about your product or service can you share with MY TRIBE?
Knowing that you should always even in the worst scenario (rape is eminent) fight back.  It has been proven that 50% of the time the predator will retreat when you fight back and that they will not hurt you anymore if you do fight back.  SO FIGHT BACK.
Wow!  Never thought of it this way.  I am Marine trained but can you imagine not being ready to fight back.  Will you freeze?
Who is in your support system?
I would say my husband is a big supporter of what I do and has my back but I also have lots of cheerleaders behind me, including my big sister and some close friends that are like my framily.
Love me some FRamily!  Shout out to my Pola, Thelma and Sylvia!!
How did you get bitten by the entrepreneurial bug?
A mixture of volunteering my time and being told you know people will pay for this service to the fact that my corporate job was eliminated due to downsizing.  But I believe everything happens for a reason.
Paying to do what you know makes a difference!
What is your biggest success up until now?
That I have taken a business that started as a volunteer basis and turned it into a service people will pay for.
Way to go Evon!
What has been your biggest challenge?
Not getting more regularity to the classes I teach.  My bookings currently are sporadic.
It happens to the best of us.  The thing is to keep approaching possible customers and organizations that will be interested in our amazing services.  And more thing … never ever forget our services are amazing and changing lives!
Any funny stories you want to share so other ladies don't feel like it only happens to them?
I was teaching a group of older ladies (60+) and was showing them what to do if someone goes to choke you.  One of the old ladies went to choke me and pushed me back against a wall (she had a fire in her).  Obviously I could have disarmed her rather quickly but took the high road and let her push me to the wall.  She kept saying you see, you see it won’t work, I can choke you how am I going to protect myself.  Two days later I received a note from the lady who hired me to teach the class and loved what she mentioned.
Thank you for your patience with some of our more "energetic" members who had trouble following directions; I'm forever grateful that when you were push-choked by one and kicked by another you refrained from turning the full force of your skills on them!
Wow!  Great constraint.  Not sure if I would had been as graceful … tee hee hee.
Anything else you would like to add?
As women we need to remember that we need to help uplift one another with positivity.  I always say Girls Compete, but Women, Women we empower.  I always try to instill that to the girls and ladies that take classes with me and anyone i encounter (fellow women entrepreneurs).  Recently working with someone whose business is similar to mine in that we both want to educate and empower (common ground) but have a different focus in the way we do that and how we can do it together.
Bee-A-ooo-tee-full!
If money was no object, what would you do all day?
Educate and empower girls by bringing my program to public schools, after school programs and underserved communities.
Where do you most want to travel, but have never been?
I would love to visit Greece.  I love visiting places that have a rich history and culture.  I hope to travel there one day.
Take me with youuuuuuuuuuuu!
Pepsi or Coke?
Neither, I do not drink soda, just seltzer.
What about being an entrepreneur do you love?
I love doing what I love, I have such a passion for teaching and knowing that what I teach can make a real difference in someone’s life is empowering for me.
I just know that Evon’s teachings will SAVE someone’s life!
What is your why?
No matter how exhausted I might be when I teach a class I leave feeling energized and empowered.
Doing what you truly love gives that extra energy boost.
What value does your business bring to your life?
Empowerment
How do you track your appointments & to-do's?
Respond
My Comment
What is your favorite gadget or app that others entrepreneurs might want to check out?
On a paper calendar/to do list (old school)
Evon is using a Passion Planner.  Go and check it out.  If I didn’t make my own, I would more than likely be using that one!!
What are the biggest time wasters we entrepreneurs get caught up in?
Sometimes when I am home I get distracted with the things that need to get done for my home and my kids.
Oh yes!!! But the secret is setting boundaries and sticking to a schedule.  The kids an hubby take some training but it can be DONE!
How do you continue to meet new clients?
Health fairs and thru past clients, recently doing some cold calling and sending out letters.
You go girl!  Picking up that phone for those cold calls are … ugh!
Any tips you'd like to share about networking?
So important.  Need to get better at it, but having your elevator pitch and letting your passion show thru is your best bet.
How can MY TRIBE reach you?
fearlessff.info@gmail.com
347-351-6782
I really do hope you enjoyed this interview and the amazing insight that this {lovely} woman entrepreneur has brought to you.  I love to see that we are not alone in our experiences, fears, hopes and dreams!
Tune in for next week’s blog where we will chat with Sindy Eugene – The Student Pathfinder!

Happy Time Management (a.k.a YOU management)
Tabby


Saturday, April 11, 2015

An ATTA girl moment

We are all familiar with the "atta boys" but what about an "atta girl"? No. Well now you will be ... Tabby's version of an ATTA GIRL.

We work our butts off being a:
Mama
Wife of that man in the house
Lover
Companion of games
Provider of meals
Spiritual leader
Professional clothes cleaner
Maid
Pet alpha
Missing sock detective
Problem solver
Healer of runny noses and boo boo's
Royal title of payer of bills
To name a few ........

And that is just being a mom and a wife.  Nevermind if you work outside of the home or even if you are crazy enough (like me) to ALSO try to start your own business.  (insert that shocked emoji)

So with all of these demands on us it so easy to lose track of well ... US!!  So here is what I teach every gal in my accountability support group.

ONCE A WEEK, SCHEDULE AN ATTA GIRL.  Yes. I say schedule to make sure you find the time for it.

Definiton of an ATTA GIRL:
A moment for a woman to do something that is just for her and no one else. 

Examples of an ATTA GIRL:
* A mani or pedi or both!
* A glass of your favorite wine while reading a book
* Meditation
* A walk in the beach or park
* Buying a new blouse
* A dinner with your BFF
* Gifting yourself a bouquet of flowers

Do something small (or big if you can afford it) that makes your heart happy and gives your soul a lift.  You need it.  In those moments you will find you and be that gal that is YOU and not what someone else expects you to be.  So enjoy along with me and my accountability group gals that ATTA GIRL moment.  Share with me what are you planning to do.  I might wanna do it too.

(Since I am in Orlando this week at MegaCon getting my geek on ... the post image had to be but of course a little syfy!!)

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Sunday FUNday ... planning for the week ahead.

Weren't the word creating people clever when they made the word PLANNING out of PLAN?  Because the thing about planning is that you have to actually PLAN! 

Oooh. Did I just hit a nerve?  For some probably.  I am an accountability coach (at times more like drill instructor ... the caring kind) and the fabulous women entrepreneurs in my accountability support group know that today (SUNDAY) is the day to sit and plan the week ahead.

Let me illustrate ... you will be driving across country.  You can do it either two ways:

1 - NO PLANNING.
You just get in your car and drive.  And the next day remembered you had an appointment with a client.  Wups. Lost that client.  You didn't check the car's maintenance status so along the way you broke down.  You didn't know what roads to take so you were heading more north than west so making it across country was comprised of lots of u-turns, wrong roads & lost time.  No panties because you forgot to pack 1/2 the stuff you really needed but you have 12 pairs of socks and 3 spools of floss though!  Sleeping in your car with no shower because you could not find a hotel with a vacancy because you didn't make a reservation ahead of time.  Dramatic no? But you get the picture.

>>OR<<

2 - YES PLANNING.
Prior to taking off on your cross-country trip that started on the 15th because that was the day you cleared your calendar to be free of commitments to enjoy the ride.  You called AAA and mapped out a ride.  So you knew exactly what I road connected to what state road.  You even figured a few spots along the way on your bucket list to see.  You had figured out about what time you would get to what town and found the cutest B&Bs to spend the night.  The car gave you no problems because it was in tip top shape because you took it in to the shop before you left. And you had plenty of clean panties because you packed all you needed.  {sigh} What a freaking fabulous trip!

So which of these two trips would you rather go on??  #2?  Oh yesssssss. ♡ smart girl ♡ But did you know that your every day journey also needs PLANNING like our cross country imaginary trip so that it can go as best as you can control (key words there *can control* because sometimes "it" just happens) and to make sure you are indeed going in the right direction for your life?  The best habit that I learned was to take time out on Sunday and plan my week ahead.  That was over 20 years ago when I went to a Franklin Covey 7 Habits class.  Oh yeah ... I was only 2 then but I was an ambitious toddler.  Hahaha.

Seriously.  Take the time on Sunday (15-30 minutes y'all that is it) to plan the week ahead so that you can head in the right direction on your journey of life.  It is so easy to wing it but you could be wasting precious time and not really enjoy that ride to the fullest.

Happy Sunday FUNday planning.
{hugs}
Tabby


Saturday, March 28, 2015

Lazy Saturdays

I am at the point of my life that I am understanding and enjoying my life rhythm.  One of the beats of my life rhythm goes by the tune of Lazy Saturday Mornings.  While others are out and about running household errands, running a 5K or cleaning their house, I am over here enjoying a slow easy morning in my PJs.  Why?

Because after the hustle, emotions and demands of my life, I have adapted a routine for myself that allows me to slow down and rest.  Yup. Even I need rest.  Me who has been told so many times "Girl! How do you do it all!!?"  And one of my secrets that allows me to do so much is to give myself permission to take some down time and rest.  During this rest period of a slow Saturday morning, I find that my body, mind and spirit get rested and that gives me the fuel I need to do "crazy" the rest of the time.

Now don't get me wrong.  My lazy time is brief.  I usually just chill until mid-morning.  Just enough time to watch a movie or read a bit of my book.  Because I am keenly aware that there is a huge difference between resting and sloth (habitual disinclination to exertion).  So awareness to your rhythm is KEY.  Key in understanding that we {need} rest to refuel to allow us to be better humans.  Therefore, we must be very careful to not cross the line and make it a full blown habit of constant laziness.

Do you listen to your rhythm and allow yourself some lazy time to rest and re-energize?  Go on ... tell me.

Thursday, March 26, 2015

So Many Great Things Coming!

So Many Great Things Coming!

Make sure to stay in the KNOW about all that is happening with systematicYOU.
Here are some teasers ... because I am just too excited to not SHARE!

1

Adding a new service to systematicYOU ... Client Focused Organizing!  It's not just about organizing the entrepreneur but also organizing their work space for maximum focus and productivity so they can focus on the things that turn into some cha ching!


2


Sponsoring the Holistic Chamber April Event!  Get your ticket HERE!

3

Being interviewed by Mom Talk Radio in April ... {whaaat?!}  Yup!  My New Yorican accent in full blast for y'all to listen to!



4

Next Accountability Tribe starts May 2nd!  Space is super limited and coveted.  Make sure to reserve your seat!


5

Hosting an amazing, get ready to ROCK your business summit that will bring leading experts to you from around the country.  Save your seat here!


Sunday, March 15, 2015

Interview with Nina Recarey Obier with Success In Leadership

Interview with Nina Recarey Obier with Success In Leadership

It has been a bit since my last TRIBE interview but I am so happy to start them off again with Lady Nina!  I met Nina over 2 years ago at a chamber breakfast event.  She was working the Toastmasters table.  She was and is such an easy person to just talk with.  As soon as you are in her space, you know that she is focused on you. How awesome to have such a coach and person in your life.  So go on.  Immerse yourself in her story and feel her genuine care for YOU.



What is the name of your business?
Success In Leadership

What product and/or service do you provide?
I am Your Leadership Liaison and Freedom Facilitator. I am a guide or discussion leader. I provide leadership without taking the reins. I serve others through live training classes; self-paced digital courses, private 1-on-1 and group facilitation. My expertise is on leadership, being a leader of one, with a focus on vision, attitude and effective human communication.

With us being more and more wrapped up in social media, effective human communication is on the decline.  I am so happy to present to you Nina.  Someone whose passion is the art of communication; face to face.

When did your business start?
January 2014

Where is your business located?
Pembroke Pines

A fellow Pines neighbor!

What territory does your business serve?
Worldwide

Who does your business serve?
First and foremost women solopreneurs. Although a few good men are drawn to the products and services!

I love how Nina is focusing on the woman solo entrepreneur so that she may not go through this journey solo.

What need does your product or service fulfill for your customers?
The need to have clarity, simplicity and the proper guide as they journey through their business. Whether it is just starting out or at a crossroads.

Nothing better than having a guide!

What DIY tip about your product or service can you share with MY TRIBE?
At a networking event your goal should be to make 3-5 solid connections. The goal is not to sell a product/service, it’s to connect and move the relationship forward. Make a list of your best go to questions. After you ask a question, LISTEN.

Love, love, love! Networking tips.  It is one of my weak points.  I hope it helps you too.

Who is in your support system?
I will be married 25 years in June to a man who is incredibly supportive. I am blessed to have my mom, dad, and sister as my biggest fans! My daughters are my constant inspiration to lead by example!

Nina is so blessed to have such a great support system!

How did you get bitten by the entrepreneurial bug?
After 10 years in the Hotel Business, and all the crazy hours, I was working my dream job as a Training & Development Specialist. While I was creating this amazing career, I was introduced to Direct Sales. I was a Creative Memories consultant to get my product at cost. After my position was downsized, I decided to take Creative Memories to the next level. Perfect timing, my daughters were young, and I was able to be at home and also be a successful business owner for 15 years. When Creative Memories filed for bankruptcy I was at a cross roads, join another Direct Sales company, or live out my dream and passion to facilitate my own courses! And so the journey continues as an entrepreneur!

Nina created her own opportunity.  I admire her.

What is your biggest success up until now?
My most recent success was publishing my book in 11/2014! Listen.Learn.Love.Lead- 40 Simple Messages for an #inspiredlife  What started out as just a to do item, is evolving into spreading the word of my truly simple messages that literally have changed my life.

I need to get her book!  Anyone want to read it along with me and then we can discuss it.  I bet Lady Nina would love to join us.

What has been your biggest challenge?
When I was in Direct Sales, you are in business for yourself but not by yourself. You have a national company behind you doing all the marketing, website and more. As a solopreneur, you fill all of those roles!

Having come from DS (direct sales) myself, I totally understand.  Thank goodness for ladies like Nina that are there to help us femmepreneurs.

What is your favorite thing about humanity?
I love having real conversations with people. I love connecting with people just because, not for arterial motives. I truly believe every interaction with a person is for a reason. We may not realize the reason right away, but I am always open to the lesson I either give or receive!

Just so you know … Out of all the personal questions, Nina picked the one about humanity.  It does NOT surprise.

Where do you most want to travel, but have never been?
New Zealand. The immense beauty that God created there has always fascinated me. I love being outdoors just soaking in the landscape. It always makes me feel so grateful!

Hmmm … I need to make sure that I fit in her suitcase.  Tee hee hee.

What about being an entrepreneur do you love?
My freedom. Freedom to push myself. Freedom to guide others. Freedom to work with my ideal clients who share my heart and passion.

I am detecting a common core here.

What is your why?
Human communication is a lost art. I know people want to connect with people. God put us on this earth together for a positive reason. I am determined not to solely rely on technology for my relationships!

She needs to teach this at schools!

Any tips you'd like to share about networking?
This is my passion. I actually created a digital course on this very subject, 7 Ways to Network to Gain Networth. First and foremost I believe you should lead with you the person, not you, your product or service. You will do this by putting pen to paper and doing the work to really know your values, character traits, strengths and weaknesses.

With each interview, I learn something NEW!  I need to chat with Lady Nina (again!).  My TRIBE would love to have her lead this workshop.

Any other tips, special messages or words of encouragement that you would like to share with MY TRIBE?
Starting and operating your own business is a process that is in constant flow. Stay the course. Give it time. Create relationships. A step forward is a step. Constant action is one of the main keys. Spend plenty of time putting pen to paper. Just thinking about the steps is not as powerful.

Special offer

Is this an exclusive special offer just for MY TRIBE?
YES!

OK TRIBE … this one is just for YOU!

How can MY TRIBE get your deal?
Email info@ninaobier.com, with the subject “Leader of the Pack!”


How long will this special last?
3 months from the posting of my interview

Just in case let’s do the math … 3/15/15 to 6/15/15! 

To contact Nina, here is her info J  And trust me, she is high techie techie!

Web:
www.ninaobier.com
Email:
info@ninaobier.com
Phone:
954-540-6990
Facebook
https://www.facebook.com/LeadershipLiaison
Instagram
Nobier
LinkedIN
www.linkedin.com/in/nobier
Pinterest
www.pinterest.com/obier
Google+
NinaObier
YouTube
NinaObier

I really do hope you enjoyed this interview and the amazing insight that this {lovely} woman entrepreneur has brought to you.  I love to see that we are not alone in our experiences, fears, hopes and dreams!
Happy Time Management (a.k.a YOU management)
Tabby