2015 is my year to NETWORK

Is it yours?

net·work·ing : noun - the exchange of information or services among individuals, groups, or institutions; specifically :  the cultivation of productive relationships for employment or business

Sounds simple enough ... just exchange some info but who is with me that just the mere thought of going into a room of those said individuals to do described exchanging; activates certain symptoms which include (but not limited to) sweat, feelings of inadequacy, heavy tongue, memory loss (yeah ... I had that clever intro in my head and forgot what the heck I had to say ... grrrr), bright and messy sauce magically spilled on my garments, lack of business cards and so much more??  You?  You? And you over there too?  Phew!  Glad to know I am not the only one.  

I acknowledge the simple fact that I am extremely fearful of getting out there to network or if I do get out there, I do a half-ass job that did not truly cultivate productive relationships as the definition says.  So what next?  Keep hiding and doing it poorly?  No!  I will somehow deal with and overcome this paralyzing fear because if I do not then my systematicYOU business will not reach the next level of success. You are with me?  Yes!  Wooo hooo.  Let's do this.

Here are some things that I will incorporate (maybe it will help you too!).

• Change my mindset about going to these events.  Meeting an individual in person is MEMORABLE.  Heck!  Who wouldn't want to meet me? Hahaha!  All kidding aside, social networking sites are fun but person-to-person is REAL and way more beneficial to me and my systematicYOU business.  So I must get from behind the computer screen and out there!
• While meeting my new peeps at networking events, I will genuinely be interested in them and how I can help them and not just wait to have the opening to vomit my 30 second commercial all over them.

• Ask more questions!  Who, What, When, Where and How will evoke more conversations out of them.  Therefore, I will really get to know them.
• Ask "How may I help you?"
• Practice!  Practice!  Practice!  I will keep going to networking events until it finally feels natural and not the end-of-the-world activity that my fears make it out to be.

• Be clear on what I do, how I help and what makes me special.  Let's be real ... there are a LOTS of "coaches" out there so what makes me ... ME?
• My new favorite F word!  FOLLOW-UP!  Collecting cards and meeting new people is not enough.  To cultivate a true relationship will take FOLLOW-UP!  I will contact my new connections within 24-48 hours (before they forget me).  Because if I don't then I just wasted my time attending a networking event.

• I will refer people their way.  I have seen the beauty of this first hand.  You send someone their way and they will do the best to send someone your way.

Someone else's success should NOT be ruler that you measure your own!

I had a chat with a dear and sweet friend today about success.  It got me to thinking ... why do we insist on measuring the level of our own success using someone else's ruler?  Yeppers.  We look at others around us and then compare ourselves to them.  Lawdy!  We are not them.  We will never be them.  Heck!  I am having a hard enough time being just ME!  tee hee hee.

What we all have to remember ... what I have to remember is that each one of us is different!  What makes me happy is not what is going to make my neighbor, my co-worker, my friend or even my own kids happy.  What makes my heart dance that special beat will not be the same tune that makes the next person's heart dance.  So with that realization, I will try my best to be fair to me and be happy with what I achieve by my own means and at my own pace and in my own freaking way.  And that will be MY SUCCESS!!

Eliminate the UNNECESSARY!

Eliminate What Is NOT Necessary!

Out of a need to be needed, we (women) add tasks, people, hobbies, crafts, chores, work, and a bunch of other crap to our lives and then later are perplexed when we find ourselves overworked, stressed, and pulled in different directions.  But we do it to ourselves but hang in there!  There is hope because we can also help ourselves out of it by doing one little thing.

"Simplify Your Life and Eliminate What Isn't Necessary!"

Oh yessssss (felt deeply)  By eliminating what we do not really need to bring us true joy, we will make room for the things that truly make our lives great!  How freeing is that one action.

As yet another year is about to end, I cannot help but to think how do I make room for the things that will make MY 2015 great?

First, I will review the things that make my heart sing and soar.  I will give major consideration to what is that I do that I just lose myself in for hours doing "IT" because it gives me joy.  I will

Then, I will look at the things that I signed up for or committed to that just are not really working for me and my kids.  What wasted my time, my money, my efforts, my strength?  I will need to figure why are they not working for me.  Can it be fixed?  Is my heart truly in it?  Or is it just a waste of time and I need to ... LET IT GO!?!?  And being honest with myself about letting it go is not as easy as it sounds!  I tend to want to fix it ALL!!  So for this one, I will need help of the Greater Being Himself.  But it is do-able because I know that God does not want me waste his precious gift of time.

I am excited about 2015 because I will start doing more of what gives me joy and less of what is not necessary!  What will you do less of to make room for more of?

Journaling my adventures with systematicYOU

Being on day non-consecutive 9 of Tony Robbins' Personal Power, I am digging in deep to be the true and personal best ME!  One of the many AHA moments shared by the CEO Whisperer was to JOURNAL my thoughts, feelings, accomplishments and even ... (deep Tony voice) defeats!  So after thinking about it for a bit, WHY NOT!?  Time to get this blog thing going so that you and I can learn something about this amazing life journey that I am going on with systematicYOU!

5AM and what am I doing?  Giving birth to a new idea ... SYSTEMATIC YOU.