Saturday, April 18, 2015

My interview with Mom Talk Radio

systematicYOU was interviewed on Mom Talk Radio

#snoopydance


I had the absolute pleasure of being interviewed for Mom Talk Radio earlier in April.  Talk about being nervous!  But it was so much fun doing it scared and my interviewer Marion, in for Maria T. Bailey, did such an amazing job leading me through the interview that after it was just easy peasy.  

Just so you know, I did this interview on my cell phone while sitting at the parking lot of that tropical Pollo place during my lunch hour.  Yup!  I managed to get this one in!

So thank you Mom Talk Radio for this great opportunity and learning experience.

You can listen to the full interview on the Mom Talk Radio website.  Fast-forward to 12:30 to listen to my segment.  #snoopydance with me y'all


Friday, April 17, 2015

How you made them feel ...

Maya Angelou got it right ... “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Maybe just like me this is a lesson that came to Lady Maya later in her life but I hope that by sharing this bit of wisdom with you NOW, it might save you time and help you build stronger relationships as of today and always.

So go on and be quiet then observe and listen to those around you.  Whether they are chatting with you in person, posting on Facebook or sending you a text.  In return offer kind words and gestures.  Do not quickly jump in with words that perpetuate grief, negativity & pity in hopes to turn the attention from them to you.  Go out there with a servant's heart and help someone feel better, loved, cherished, appreciated, welcomed, understood, inspired ... be good to someone.  Be the type of person that Maya talks of ... be remembered for how you made them {feel}!

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Interview with Evon Reyes with Fearless Fighting Females

Interview with Evon Reyes with

Fearless Fighting Females

Evon is a high school peep of mine y’all.  We reconnected after a while on Facebook.  I was so impressed with the pictures of Evon giving classes to college girls to defend themselves that I just HAD to ask her to give us an interview.  Even though she is up in the NYC, I hope it motivates you to teach yourself and the young girls in your life to learn self-defense!



 

What is the name of your business?
Fearless Fighting Females
This name is EMPOWERING!  Can you dig it?
What product and/or service do you provide?
Fearless Fighting Females Self Defense & Empowerment classes educate and empower students for today’s world.  During the class, participants learn the six basic principles of self-defense including moves that help students be more aware of their strengths and how to use those skills to defend themselves.  In this class, methods for real-life scenarios are taught that are easy to use and remember.
Loving how Evon has tailored her class for TODAY’S world.  It isn’t anything like what I grew up in … not calling myself old but man … things sure have changed!
When did your business start?
My business began in 2010
Where is your business located?
In New York City
My hometown!
What territory does your business serve?
Currently NY and the tri-state area but would love to expand to other states.
Ooooh!  Let’s get enough interest going to make it worthwhile for Evon to come down and give us a class!!!
Who does your business serve?
Girls as young as 5 and women as old as 80.
I am somewhere in there and I ain’t telling!
What need does your product or service fulfill for your customers?
Educates and empowers them to defend themselves and to handle themselves in the worst of situations.
Love how FFF will help us prepare for the worst situation.  It might just save a life.
What DIY tip about your product or service can you share with MY TRIBE?
Knowing that you should always even in the worst scenario (rape is eminent) fight back.  It has been proven that 50% of the time the predator will retreat when you fight back and that they will not hurt you anymore if you do fight back.  SO FIGHT BACK.
Wow!  Never thought of it this way.  I am Marine trained but can you imagine not being ready to fight back.  Will you freeze?
Who is in your support system?
I would say my husband is a big supporter of what I do and has my back but I also have lots of cheerleaders behind me, including my big sister and some close friends that are like my framily.
Love me some FRamily!  Shout out to my Pola, Thelma and Sylvia!!
How did you get bitten by the entrepreneurial bug?
A mixture of volunteering my time and being told you know people will pay for this service to the fact that my corporate job was eliminated due to downsizing.  But I believe everything happens for a reason.
Paying to do what you know makes a difference!
What is your biggest success up until now?
That I have taken a business that started as a volunteer basis and turned it into a service people will pay for.
Way to go Evon!
What has been your biggest challenge?
Not getting more regularity to the classes I teach.  My bookings currently are sporadic.
It happens to the best of us.  The thing is to keep approaching possible customers and organizations that will be interested in our amazing services.  And more thing … never ever forget our services are amazing and changing lives!
Any funny stories you want to share so other ladies don't feel like it only happens to them?
I was teaching a group of older ladies (60+) and was showing them what to do if someone goes to choke you.  One of the old ladies went to choke me and pushed me back against a wall (she had a fire in her).  Obviously I could have disarmed her rather quickly but took the high road and let her push me to the wall.  She kept saying you see, you see it won’t work, I can choke you how am I going to protect myself.  Two days later I received a note from the lady who hired me to teach the class and loved what she mentioned.
Thank you for your patience with some of our more "energetic" members who had trouble following directions; I'm forever grateful that when you were push-choked by one and kicked by another you refrained from turning the full force of your skills on them!
Wow!  Great constraint.  Not sure if I would had been as graceful … tee hee hee.
Anything else you would like to add?
As women we need to remember that we need to help uplift one another with positivity.  I always say Girls Compete, but Women, Women we empower.  I always try to instill that to the girls and ladies that take classes with me and anyone i encounter (fellow women entrepreneurs).  Recently working with someone whose business is similar to mine in that we both want to educate and empower (common ground) but have a different focus in the way we do that and how we can do it together.
Bee-A-ooo-tee-full!
If money was no object, what would you do all day?
Educate and empower girls by bringing my program to public schools, after school programs and underserved communities.
Where do you most want to travel, but have never been?
I would love to visit Greece.  I love visiting places that have a rich history and culture.  I hope to travel there one day.
Take me with youuuuuuuuuuuu!
Pepsi or Coke?
Neither, I do not drink soda, just seltzer.
What about being an entrepreneur do you love?
I love doing what I love, I have such a passion for teaching and knowing that what I teach can make a real difference in someone’s life is empowering for me.
I just know that Evon’s teachings will SAVE someone’s life!
What is your why?
No matter how exhausted I might be when I teach a class I leave feeling energized and empowered.
Doing what you truly love gives that extra energy boost.
What value does your business bring to your life?
Empowerment
How do you track your appointments & to-do's?
Respond
My Comment
What is your favorite gadget or app that others entrepreneurs might want to check out?
On a paper calendar/to do list (old school)
Evon is using a Passion Planner.  Go and check it out.  If I didn’t make my own, I would more than likely be using that one!!
What are the biggest time wasters we entrepreneurs get caught up in?
Sometimes when I am home I get distracted with the things that need to get done for my home and my kids.
Oh yes!!! But the secret is setting boundaries and sticking to a schedule.  The kids an hubby take some training but it can be DONE!
How do you continue to meet new clients?
Health fairs and thru past clients, recently doing some cold calling and sending out letters.
You go girl!  Picking up that phone for those cold calls are … ugh!
Any tips you'd like to share about networking?
So important.  Need to get better at it, but having your elevator pitch and letting your passion show thru is your best bet.
How can MY TRIBE reach you?
fearlessff.info@gmail.com
347-351-6782
I really do hope you enjoyed this interview and the amazing insight that this {lovely} woman entrepreneur has brought to you.  I love to see that we are not alone in our experiences, fears, hopes and dreams!
Tune in for next week’s blog where we will chat with Sindy Eugene – The Student Pathfinder!

Happy Time Management (a.k.a YOU management)
Tabby


Saturday, April 11, 2015

An ATTA girl moment

We are all familiar with the "atta boys" but what about an "atta girl"? No. Well now you will be ... Tabby's version of an ATTA GIRL.

We work our butts off being a:
Mama
Wife of that man in the house
Lover
Companion of games
Provider of meals
Spiritual leader
Professional clothes cleaner
Maid
Pet alpha
Missing sock detective
Problem solver
Healer of runny noses and boo boo's
Royal title of payer of bills
To name a few ........

And that is just being a mom and a wife.  Nevermind if you work outside of the home or even if you are crazy enough (like me) to ALSO try to start your own business.  (insert that shocked emoji)

So with all of these demands on us it so easy to lose track of well ... US!!  So here is what I teach every gal in my accountability support group.

ONCE A WEEK, SCHEDULE AN ATTA GIRL.  Yes. I say schedule to make sure you find the time for it.

Definiton of an ATTA GIRL:
A moment for a woman to do something that is just for her and no one else. 

Examples of an ATTA GIRL:
* A mani or pedi or both!
* A glass of your favorite wine while reading a book
* Meditation
* A walk in the beach or park
* Buying a new blouse
* A dinner with your BFF
* Gifting yourself a bouquet of flowers

Do something small (or big if you can afford it) that makes your heart happy and gives your soul a lift.  You need it.  In those moments you will find you and be that gal that is YOU and not what someone else expects you to be.  So enjoy along with me and my accountability group gals that ATTA GIRL moment.  Share with me what are you planning to do.  I might wanna do it too.

(Since I am in Orlando this week at MegaCon getting my geek on ... the post image had to be but of course a little syfy!!)

Sunday, April 5, 2015

Sunday FUNday ... planning for the week ahead.

Weren't the word creating people clever when they made the word PLANNING out of PLAN?  Because the thing about planning is that you have to actually PLAN! 

Oooh. Did I just hit a nerve?  For some probably.  I am an accountability coach (at times more like drill instructor ... the caring kind) and the fabulous women entrepreneurs in my accountability support group know that today (SUNDAY) is the day to sit and plan the week ahead.

Let me illustrate ... you will be driving across country.  You can do it either two ways:

1 - NO PLANNING.
You just get in your car and drive.  And the next day remembered you had an appointment with a client.  Wups. Lost that client.  You didn't check the car's maintenance status so along the way you broke down.  You didn't know what roads to take so you were heading more north than west so making it across country was comprised of lots of u-turns, wrong roads & lost time.  No panties because you forgot to pack 1/2 the stuff you really needed but you have 12 pairs of socks and 3 spools of floss though!  Sleeping in your car with no shower because you could not find a hotel with a vacancy because you didn't make a reservation ahead of time.  Dramatic no? But you get the picture.

>>OR<<

2 - YES PLANNING.
Prior to taking off on your cross-country trip that started on the 15th because that was the day you cleared your calendar to be free of commitments to enjoy the ride.  You called AAA and mapped out a ride.  So you knew exactly what I road connected to what state road.  You even figured a few spots along the way on your bucket list to see.  You had figured out about what time you would get to what town and found the cutest B&Bs to spend the night.  The car gave you no problems because it was in tip top shape because you took it in to the shop before you left. And you had plenty of clean panties because you packed all you needed.  {sigh} What a freaking fabulous trip!

So which of these two trips would you rather go on??  #2?  Oh yesssssss. ♡ smart girl ♡ But did you know that your every day journey also needs PLANNING like our cross country imaginary trip so that it can go as best as you can control (key words there *can control* because sometimes "it" just happens) and to make sure you are indeed going in the right direction for your life?  The best habit that I learned was to take time out on Sunday and plan my week ahead.  That was over 20 years ago when I went to a Franklin Covey 7 Habits class.  Oh yeah ... I was only 2 then but I was an ambitious toddler.  Hahaha.

Seriously.  Take the time on Sunday (15-30 minutes y'all that is it) to plan the week ahead so that you can head in the right direction on your journey of life.  It is so easy to wing it but you could be wasting precious time and not really enjoy that ride to the fullest.

Happy Sunday FUNday planning.
{hugs}
Tabby